by Mae Growth Teacher | Life Lessons
At some point in our life we will fail or we had our own fair share of failures. According to Denzel Washington, ‘If we never fail, it means, we are not trying hard enough!’
So what is failure? Let’s go ahead and define it.
Cambridge dictionary: The fact of someone or something not succeeding.
American dictionary: A lack of success in doing something.
I noticed a common factor of each definition, failure is lack of success. Now, here is where the challenge. Success to anyone is subjective. Success to me might differ to other people. But regardless, does it really matter?
Well, No! Let me expand that.
It is all about perspective. You heard of the expression a glass half empty or half full? It is exactly just that.
Some people see failure as a blessing or misfortune. When faced by a tough situation, people see the opportunity of it and some see it as a sign to quit.
What is my take of it? I see failure as a blessing.
Living for 30 odd years I can fairly say, I had my own share of failures in life. The most recent one, was the demise of my marriage. At the time when I was about to make a decision to end my marriage, I was worried of what others might say about me. I was afraid of the uncertainty ahead and all the what if scenarios my head can think of. But where it all comes down to?
My wellbeing and my honesty towards myself.
Was it an easy ride? Hell, no.
But hey, if not because of what I had to go through. I will never be the woman that I am now.
I went through three year of divorce battle but if not because of it, I would never learn how to protect my rights as a woman,
my legal rights as a wife and as a citizen.
I would never learn how to navigate tough terrains in picking the right solicitor who would have my best interest at heart and not just after for my hard earn cash! It took me around 10 solicitors and 2 years before I found the right solicitor.
I would never learn that there are actually myriads of agencies (Women’s Aid and the Samaritans) out there who are willing to help vulnerable people.
I would never learn how to find my first rental place, apply for my council tax and utility bills.
I would never know my rights as a tenant.
Equally important, I would never know who are my true friends, whom continued to stay with me through the storm.
If I had not gone through all those, I would never found the new world that I live right now, independent and resourceful.
I would never recognise my potentials if time had not tested them.
I have never felt more free in my life. I learn so much about myself, the things I thought were impossible then, were made possible. I did not become an overnight wonder woman. Instead, I allowed myself to fall over but made sure not to stay there for long. I rewired my belief systems and truly believe in myself. Especially, being on my own in a foreign country, as my family are in Philippines.
I had to get comfortable with the uncertainty and truly believe in myself that whatever happens, whatever I do, I will make it work. I will make it happen. I switched my belief from a victim to an opportunity to grow, rebirth, has led me to the life that I have now. Right now, I am exploring the world, quite literally, I see it as my oyster.
So yeah, I see my journey and any situations that throw at me or people that I cross as a passers’ by to teach me something to learn from, to become the best version of myself!
The Moral of the story?
We all have the power within us to change whatever circumstance that we are in. If we start looking inward and we feel within us that we are more than just humans but we are capable Beings. We are capable at anything as long as we put our mind to it.
A year ago, who would thought I can build an online business like I am building now.
Life is truly indeed has its own way of things and I help create it.
So I hope my journey help you see failure on a different light. If I can overcome it, so do you!
Always remember, we are all beautiful from within.
Next time when you see yourself facing a challenging situation, ask yourself this: ‘What blessings you have for me today?’
Until next time, take care and Namaste!
Yours truly,
M💗e 😊
by Mae Growth Teacher | Life Lessons
Are you feeling helpless or stuck? Are you feeling a massive surge of emotional imbalance and feeling stuck? Are you feeling frustrated that something has been taken from you, your freedom?
You are not alone. Everyone in the globe is feeling the same. This new norms, being lockdown, the quarantine, the social distancing is forcing us, humanity, to re-evaluate why we are even here? What are we here for?
Does living all about going to work, socialise with friends, have some drinks in the pub, come home to the family then sleep and repeat the same process? Now this freedom of socialising has been taken away from us, what then?
How can we still continue to find our purpose or continue to align ourselves to what we are supposed to be here if our own way of living is currently being threatened?
Simple answer: Do not fight the what is and do not deny yourself of whatever emotions you are facing right now.
Why? The more you deny yourself of what you are feeling right now, the more the emotions become unbearable. So, do not fight it but face it without judgement.
If you are down then allow yourself to feel that way. If you are feeling helpless just let it be. Acknowledge the feelings, observe it. If you need to cry then let it all out.
It is ok NOT to be ok. But remember, never for a second doubt who you are. We are beautiful and powerful Beings. We are capable of anything more than we give ourselves credit. The fact that we exist for hundreds of thousands, generations to generations. We have weathered some of the catastrophic challenges the humankind has ever faced, the survival of the species. Our very Being is the testament to that.
We adapt to our environment and we influence our environment. There are so many studies already proven our human capabilities but is not universally disseminated in the mainstream media (Experiments Proving Thoughts Can Change Reality – Mind over Matter).
So how can we turn the tides to our favour?
This is the time of massive purging. We have been very busy as a society. We have been chasing calendars, travel here and travel there. Families are struggling to get calendars to meet to celebrate birthdays or special occasions due to hectic schedule. We have never been so still. We are always on the go.
The pandemic is forcing us to confine in one place, to be still and to be with family. We have more time in our hands than ever because we are forced to stay indoors and no need to travel or commute. We spend more time with the people that we hold dear than before and to some who have not had the chance to be with family, it forces them to be on their own longer than they usually do.
Take this tide as an opportunity to reflect, an opportunity to make those conversations that you have been meaning to have with your loved ones. Now is the time to do the things that you have been delaying or you have been procrastinating. It is time to heal, to forgive and to re-assess what exactly are important to us in this lifetime. This is not just a means to reflect as a society but this is the perfect time to reflect what life have you live so far and are you content of the trajectory of your life’s progress.
It is time to pick up those pending projects or course or business that you have been meaning to do. Perhaps start a new habit or perhaps re-ignite those lost connections in your circle. This is the time to reconnect, whilst we are socially distancing from each other, we have the technology to serve us to stay connected from one another. Make the phone calls that you have been wanting to do to a friend or to a loved one that you never had the time to ring.
This is the time of new beginning, some call it the new Earth. Use the time to our advantage and use it to ignite those missing sparks inside. You have now the time to holistically review whether when this is all over, would you still continue the way of living that you had before the pandemic or would you take your life to the next level?
Nothing happens by accident nor by coincidence. It is all about perspective. Like I mentioned in my previous blog, that each situation we can call it as a blessing or misfortune.
So whatever you decide, make it worthwhile and remember, we live in a finite world, make every moment counts. Do not live the life in fear but rather create your own reality that is worth living!
Until next time, Namaste!
Yours truly,
Mae 🙂
