At some point in our life we will fail or we had our own fair share of failures. According to Denzel Washington, ‘If we never fail, it means, we are not trying hard enough!’
So what is failure? Let’s go ahead and define it.
Cambridge dictionary: The fact of someone or something not succeeding.
American dictionary: A lack of success in doing something.
I noticed a common factor of each definition, failure is lack of success. Now, here is where the challenge. Success to anyone is subjective. Success to me might differ to other people. But regardless, does it really matter?
Well, No! Let me expand that.
It is all about perspective. You heard of the expression a glass half empty or half full? It is exactly just that.
Some people see failure as a blessing or misfortune. When faced by a tough situation, people see the opportunity of it and some see it as a sign to quit.
What is my take of it? I see failure as a blessing.
Living for 30 odd years I can fairly say, I had my own share of failures in life. The most recent one, was the demise of my marriage. At the time when I was about to make a decision to end my marriage, I was worried of what others might say about me. I was afraid of the uncertainty ahead and all the what if scenarios my head can think of. But where it all comes down to?
My wellbeing and my honesty towards myself.
Was it an easy ride? Hell, no.
But hey, if not because of what I had to go through. I will never be the woman that I am now.
I went through three year of divorce battle but if not because of it, I would never learn how to protect my rights as a woman,
my legal rights as a wife and as a citizen.
I would never learn how to navigate tough terrains in picking the right solicitor who would have my best interest at heart and not just after for my hard earn cash! It took me around 10 solicitors and 2 years before I found the right solicitor.
I would never learn that there are actually myriads of agencies (Women’s Aid and the Samaritans) out there who are willing to help vulnerable people.
I would never learn how to find my first rental place, apply for my council tax and utility bills.
I would never know my rights as a tenant.
Equally important, I would never know who are my true friends, whom continued to stay with me through the storm.
If I had not gone through all those, I would never found the new world that I live right now, independent and resourceful.
I would never recognise my potentials if time had not tested them.
I have never felt more free in my life. I learn so much about myself, the things I thought were impossible then, were made possible. I did not become an overnight wonder woman. Instead, I allowed myself to fall over but made sure not to stay there for long. I rewired my belief systems and truly believe in myself. Especially, being on my own in a foreign country, as my family are in Philippines.
I had to get comfortable with the uncertainty and truly believe in myself that whatever happens, whatever I do, I will make it work. I will make it happen. I switched my belief from a victim to an opportunity to grow, rebirth, has led me to the life that I have now. Right now, I am exploring the world, quite literally, I see it as my oyster.
So yeah, I see my journey and any situations that throw at me or people that I cross as a passers’ by to teach me something to learn from, to become the best version of myself!
The Moral of the story?
We all have the power within us to change whatever circumstance that we are in. If we start looking inward and we feel within us that we are more than just humans but we are capable Beings. We are capable at anything as long as we put our mind to it.
A year ago, who would thought I can build an online business like I am building now.
Life is truly indeed has its own way of things and I help create it.
So I hope my journey help you see failure on a different light. If I can overcome it, so do you!
Always remember, we are all beautiful from within.
Next time when you see yourself facing a challenging situation, ask yourself this: ‘What blessings you have for me today?’
Until next time, take care and Namaste!
Yours truly,
M💗e 😊
