At some point in our life we will fail or we had our own fair share of failures. According to Denzel Washington, ‘If we never fail, it means, we are not trying hard enough!’
So what is failure? Let’s go ahead and define it.
Cambridge dictionary: The fact of someone or something not succeeding.
American dictionary: A lack of success in doing something.
I noticed a common factor of each definition, failure is lack of success. Now, here is where the challenge. Success to anyone is subjective. Success to me might differ to other people. But regardless, does it really matter?
Well, No! Let me expand that.
It is all about perspective. You heard of the expression a glass half empty or half full? It is exactly just that.
Some people see failure as a blessing or misfortune. When faced by a tough situation, people see the opportunity of it and some see it as a sign to quit.
What is my take of it? I see failure as a blessing.
Living for 30 odd years I can fairly say, I had my own share of failures in life. The most recent one, was the demise of my marriage. At the time when I was about to make a decision to end my marriage, I was worried of what others might say about me. I was afraid of the uncertainty ahead and all the what if scenarios my head can think of. But where it all comes down to?
My wellbeing and my honesty towards myself.
Was it an easy ride? Hell, no.
But hey, if not because of what I had to go through. I will never be the woman that I am now.
I went through three year of divorce battle but if not because of it, I would never learn how to protect my rights as a woman,
my legal rights as a wife and as a citizen.
I would never learn how to navigate tough terrains in picking the right solicitor who would have my best interest at heart and not just after for my hard earn cash! It took me around 10 solicitors and 2 years before I found the right solicitor.
I would never learn that there are actually myriads of agencies (Women’s Aid and the Samaritans) out there who are willing to help vulnerable people.
I would never learn how to find my first rental place, apply for my council tax and utility bills.
I would never know my rights as a tenant.
Equally important, I would never know who are my true friends, whom continued to stay with me through the storm.
If I had not gone through all those, I would never found the new world that I live right now, independent and resourceful.
I would never recognise my potentials if time had not tested them.
I have never felt more free in my life. I learn so much about myself, the things I thought were impossible then, were made possible. I did not become an overnight wonder woman. Instead, I allowed myself to fall over but made sure not to stay there for long. I rewired my belief systems and truly believe in myself. Especially, being on my own in a foreign country, as my family are in Philippines.
I had to get comfortable with the uncertainty and truly believe in myself that whatever happens, whatever I do, I will make it work. I will make it happen. I switched my belief from a victim to an opportunity to grow, rebirth, has led me to the life that I have now. Right now, I am exploring the world, quite literally, I see it as my oyster.
So yeah, I see my journey and any situations that throw at me or people that I cross as a passers’ by to teach me something to learn from, to become the best version of myself!
The Moral of the story?
We all have the power within us to change whatever circumstance that we are in. If we start looking inward and we feel within us that we are more than just humans but we are capable Beings. We are capable at anything as long as we put our mind to it.
A year ago, who would thought I can build an online business like I am building now.
Life is truly indeed has its own way of things and I help create it.
So I hope my journey help you see failure on a different light. If I can overcome it, so do you!
Always remember, we are all beautiful from within.
Next time when you see yourself facing a challenging situation, ask yourself this: ‘What blessings you have for me today?’
What you believe is not what you think it is. We have grown in this world knowing this is all there is. From being a baby, toddler, finish school, land a job or own a business, have family, grow some grey hair, retire then bid goodbye to this world. What if life in this world is not the only life there is? What if you have lived hundred if not thousands of lives before this lifetime? Would you see this life differently? Would you see the world now on a new pair of eyes?
Well, I have.
Let’s rewind two years ago, the Summer of 2019. I randomly saw Dolores Cannon’s work on YouTube. At that time, I did not know who she was let alone her work. I was curious of her work so I bought two of her book, ‘The Search for the Hidden, Sacred Knowledge’ and ‘Between Death and Life. I was hooked when I read the former, Sacred Knowledge. Back then, it was just a random read thinking that it might be a fiction book. As I turned more pages, the more I was hooked on the events and situations described in her book. But oddly, life happened, work got out of the way and I never opened my Kobo e-reader until two years later.
2021
A pulse inside me was telling me, I have to check my e-reader. I am not sure if you noticed on the Kobo e-reader, even it was Power Off, the book you currently read will be your wallpaper. I think it took me another two to three days before it to open and resume where I left off from the ‘Search of Hidden, Sacred Knowledge’. After I finished it for two hours, I decided to read her second book in my library, ‘Between Life and Death’. This is when my AWAKENING has begun to a higher level. I always believe that everything has its higher purpose. We’ve all been fed by this quote especially when you had rough times in your life. But never would I thought that I would see the day that my life is no longer seen as another day to work so I can get out from my current job and be my own boss. I was so fixated on getting out of my job which led me to anxiety and depression for the entire year of 2020. This was one of my Kensho moments. If you are not familiar with it, this has been introduced by the Japanese culture.
Kensho means growth from pain and Satori is growth from wisdom. For more information check Vishen Lakiani’s blog, Mind Valley Co-Founder. 2020 was my last Kensho that I was even considering parting this life and I am glad I didn’t. Otherwise, 1.) I would have not had the chance to share my story and 2.) it would have been a waste of this beautiful vehicle and lifetime.
Where am I going with this?
There is life after death where true home lies. Now, this is indeed against some of the religious practices which do not believe in incarnation. Or to an extent from the Christian belief system, there are only three places you can go after death: Heaven if you are not sinful, Hell if you are sinful and Purgatory if you are somewhat 50% good and 50% bad. It has been ingrained in our mind that when you are bad, you deserve to be punished in the afterlife.
In the physical plane, Earth, hierarchy like institute or government has set the law of the land of what you can and cannot do. We are told of what we can and we cannot do within what are socially, morally and emotionally acceptable standards. We have to conform and align ourselves to these standards. Otherwise, you will be punished or be treated as an outcast. We are so used to the way of the things in this physical plane that we see the world as a black or white or straight line. But actually, the Universe works in an orderly yet complex manner where everything has its own purpose no matter how irrelevant or morally wrong the events or situations may appear.
When we see people suffering either from being destitute or ailment or disability, we see life as unfair or we did not have a choice. What we did not see from the big picture where these situations were architected by our Higher Self or our Higher Being before deciding to come to Earth school. We agreed beforehand on what we want to learn here on Earth and how this interconnect to bring a positive impact on other lives with whom we have agreed to come in contact too. Dolores’s books properly explained it directly from the Higher Self itself when she studied hundreds of thousands of subject who went on the past life regression. Sceptics would always challenge the approach as hocus pocus or a bluff. However, bear in mind, if all these subjects are from all over the world, it is impossible to go on the record describing similar things. Numbers speak volumes and it is really difficult to deny it especially since the results were outstanding.
The purpose of mentioning Dolores Cannon’s work is not to enforce the idea on you. But rather to start asking yourself whether or not there is fundamental evidence that what you believe now and what you were taught since little is the absolute truth. As the information age evolves opposite is true when it comes to which materials to trust. Go back to basic. Listen to your instinct. It is there for a reason, try to give your left brain (logical) some rest and take your right brain (creative) to the gym through meditation. The more you practice this, the more you are in tune with your Higher Self or your intuition. Do not take my word for it. Start looking around you. 1% of the population are successful people, Billionaires and CEOs, have made the habit to meditate every day.
Most of their bold ideas came when they meditate. Start building your confidence by listening to your right brain. Einstein and Nikola Tesla were some of the few people who believe that there are far greater forces at play than what meets the eye. All we have to do is to look with-IN and you will be surprised that the answers are just there all along waiting to be found.
Unitl next time, with love and light!
Yours truly,
M💗e
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PS: Image credits to: Bettmann/Corbis – Nikla Tesla and Einstein Photo by Taton Moïse on Unsplash
We can all rise to the occasion as long as we choose it. Our decision that we make now defines our standard and shapes the future that we attract for ourselves.
Are you feeling helpless or stuck? Are you feeling a massive surge of emotional imbalance and feeling stuck? Are you feeling frustrated that something has been taken from you, your freedom?
You are not alone. Everyone in the globe is feeling the same. This new norms, being lockdown, the quarantine, the social distancing is forcing us, humanity, to re-evaluate why we are even here? What are we here for?
Does living all about going to work, socialise with friends, have some drinks in the pub, come home to the family then sleep and repeat the same process? Now this freedom of socialising has been taken away from us, what then?
How can we still continue to find our purpose or continue to align ourselves to what we are supposed to be here if our own way of living is currently being threatened?
Simple answer: Do not fight the what is and do not deny yourself of whatever emotions you are facing right now.
Why? The more you deny yourself of what you are feeling right now, the more the emotions become unbearable. So, do not fight it but face it without judgement.
If you are down then allow yourself to feel that way. If you are feeling helpless just let it be. Acknowledge the feelings, observe it. If you need to cry then let it all out.
It is ok NOT to be ok. But remember, never for a second doubt who you are. We are beautiful and powerful Beings. We are capable of anything more than we give ourselves credit. The fact that we exist for hundreds of thousands, generations to generations. We have weathered some of the catastrophic challenges the humankind has ever faced, the survival of the species. Our very Being is the testament to that.
This is the time of massive purging. We have been very busy as a society. We have been chasing calendars, travel here and travel there. Families are struggling to get calendars to meet to celebrate birthdays or special occasions due to hectic schedule. We have never been so still. We are always on the go.
The pandemic is forcing us to confine in one place, to be still and to be with family. We have more time in our hands than ever because we are forced to stay indoors and no need to travel or commute. We spend more time with the people that we hold dear than before and to some who have not had the chance to be with family, it forces them to be on their own longer than they usually do.
Take this tide as an opportunity to reflect, an opportunity to make those conversations that you have been meaning to have with your loved ones. Now is the time to do the things that you have been delaying or you have been procrastinating. It is time to heal, to forgive and to re-assess what exactly are important to us in this lifetime. This is not just a means to reflect as a society but this is the perfect time to reflect what life have you live so far and are you content of the trajectory of your life’s progress.
It is time to pick up those pending projects or course or business that you have been meaning to do. Perhaps start a new habit or perhaps re-ignite those lost connections in your circle. This is the time to reconnect, whilst we are socially distancing from each other, we have the technology to serve us to stay connected from one another. Make the phone calls that you have been wanting to do to a friend or to a loved one that you never had the time to ring.
This is the time of new beginning, some call it the new Earth. Use the time to our advantage and use it to ignite those missing sparks inside. You have now the time to holistically review whether when this is all over, would you still continue the way of living that you had before the pandemic or would you take your life to the next level?
Nothing happens by accident nor by coincidence. It is all about perspective. Like I mentioned in my previous blog, that each situation we can call it as a blessing or misfortune.
So whatever you decide, make it worthwhile and remember, we live in a finite world, make every moment counts. Do not live the life in fear but rather create your own reality that is worth living!
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