Ever felt like you’re living your life on someone else’s terms, desperately seeking approval while the fear of rejection looms over you like a dark cloud? 🌧️ If that resonates, you’re not alone! 😔
The Pain of Seeking Approval 😩
Picture this: you’re at a party, surrounded by laughter and chatter, yet you feel like an outsider looking in. Instead of enjoying the moment, your mind races with thoughts like, “Do they like me? Am I saying the right things?” It’s exhausting, isn’t it? This constant need for validation can leave you feeling drained and anxious, as if you’re running a marathon with no finish line in sight.
For many, seeking approval leads to a profound sense of loneliness. You might have a crowd of friends around you, but deep down, you feel disconnected. Why? Because you’re not being your true self. You’re wearing a mask, and it’s heavy. The fear of rejection looms large, making you second-guess every word and action. It’s like walking on eggshells, always worried that one misstep could send someone packing.
What’s at the Root of It All? 🌱
So, where does this need for approval come from? Often, it’s rooted in our past experiences. Maybe you grew up in an environment where love was conditional—where praise was given only for achievements, not for simply being you. Or perhaps you faced criticism that made you doubt your worth. These experiences can create a belief that your value is tied to how others perceive you.
Cultural and societal pressures also play a massive role. We live in a world that often equates success with popularity and acceptance. Social media doesn’t help either; it’s a highlight reel that can make anyone feel inadequate. The result? A cycle of seeking validation that can feel impossible to break.
Finding Your Way Back to Your True Self – Authentic Self 🤗
It starts with YOU. Here are some gentle steps to help you reclaim your authenticity and break free from the approval trap:
- Self-Reflection: Take a moment to ask yourself: “What do I truly value?” Write it down. Understanding your core beliefs can help you stand firm in your identity.
- Challenge Negative Thoughts: When you catch yourself worrying about others’ opinions, challenge those thoughts. Ask yourself, “Is this thought based on fact or fear?” Often, it’s the latter.
- Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend. Remember, it’s okay to be imperfect. Embrace your quirks; they make you unique!
- Set Boundaries: Learn to say no. It’s not selfish; it’s necessary. Protecting your time and energy is crucial for your well-being.
- Explore Self-Hypnosis: This powerful tool can help you reprogram your subconscious mind, allowing you to let go of the need for external validation. By tapping into your inner self, you can cultivate a sense of worth that isn’t reliant on others’ opinions. If you are curious, about Self-Hypnosis, you can book my free 1-to-1 session here
- Consider Past Life Regression: Sometimes, the roots of our fears can stretch back further than we realise. Past life regression can help uncover deep-seated beliefs and patterns that may be influencing your current need for approval, allowing you to release them and embrace your true self. Learn more here.
- Surround Yourself with Support: Seek out people who appreciate you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be. Genuine connections can help you feel more secure in your identity.
- Celebrate Small Wins: Acknowledge your efforts to be authentic, no matter how small. Each step you take is a victory worth celebrating! 🎉
- Seek Professional Help: Remember, therapists aren’t the only professionals who can help. Coaches, mentors, and even supportive friends can provide valuable insights and guidance on your journey to authenticity.
- Find Your Tribe: Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who are also on a journey of self-discovery. Sharing experiences can foster a sense of belonging and support.
Remember, you are enough just as you are. The journey to authenticity may be challenging, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. Join me next time as we explore more about overcoming the fear of rejection and embracing your true self. Until then, be kind to yourself! 🙏👏
Read Episode 2 here! 🌟
Take care,
Mae
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